A Love Letter to the Wounded Healer Who Is Practicing Finding Peace
To the wounded healer who is practicing finding peace—this is for you.
You are enough just as you are. You are important, worthy, lovable, and gifted enough to take up space and have your needs met. You get to do this comfortably from your throne simply because you exist. You don’t have to earn your right to be seen, and you don’t have to work your fingers to the bone before you can delight in rest and relaxation. You can have a peaceful, restful existence—always.
What Is a Wounded Healer?
A wounded healer is someone who, through their own pain and struggles, has developed deep empathy and wisdom that they use to support and guide others. If you find yourself constantly helping, listening, or holding space for others while navigating your own healing journey, you are a wounded healer. But here’s the truth: healing others does not mean ignoring your own healing. In fact, your own peace is just as sacred and necessary as the support you provide to others.
Finding Peace in the Messy Middle
As we evolve, we become clearer about what we do and don’t want in life. We stand more firmly in our power, unapologetic about taking up space. And yet, there’s a middle ground—a space where we feel both empowered and terrified. This is the messy middle, where you question your own audacity and wonder how you got so bold, so daring, so crazy.
So, what do you do in this space? You pause. You reflect. You grieve.
Yes, I am telling you to sit in the discomfort for a moment. Let yourself acknowledge that even when you’re shedding what no longer serves you—whether it’s an old habit, a toxic relationship, or a limiting belief—there’s still a sense of loss. The old version of you, no matter how painful, was still familiar. Letting go is both an ending and a beginning.
The Funeral & The Opening Ceremony
Say your goodbyes with an open heart. Sit with your sorrow, write a letter you will never send, or create a ritual to honor what you are leaving behind. Let yourself mourn and celebrate this transformation so that you can enter your next chapter without regrets or old stories weighing you down. Lay your past to rest—yes, like a funeral.
Moving on quickly isn’t something to celebrate if you’re still carrying old baggage. Make things official: hold space for grief, give yourself closure, and then step forward. Welcome the new with fresh flowers, a toast to your evolution, and a deep breath that reminds you—this is where I am meant to be.
Practical Steps to Finding Peace as a Wounded Healer
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Create a Goodbye Ritual: Light a candle, write a farewell letter to your past self, or even hold a symbolic ceremony to mark your transition.
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Set Boundaries: Your healing matters too. Learn to say no without guilt and protect your energy.
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Prioritize Rest & Joy: Healing isn’t just about deep inner work—it’s also about allowing yourself to experience ease, laughter, and play.
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Practice Affirmations: Repeat to yourself: I am enough. I am worthy of peace. I am allowed to change and grow.
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Journaling Prompts for Reflection:
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What am I releasing in this season of my life?
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How can I honor my own healing while supporting others?
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What does peace look like for me today?
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What am I grateful for in my transformation?
A Love Letter to Myself
I’m saying goodbye to the old me, the expired me. I’m kissing the outdated patterns farewell, releasing mindsets I’ve outgrown, and stepping away from routines that no longer serve me. I am welcoming in uncomfortable transformations because I know they are the baby steps that will lead me to the mountaintop where I belong.
Fear, resentment, guilt, shame, and not-enoughness—you are no longer welcome here. No more playing small. This is both a funeral and an opening ceremony. This is a death and a birth, a wedding and a divorce. I am basking in my cyclical nature, honoring my grief and my growth, and embracing the wisdom of the divine within me.
I am grateful for everything I have. I am grateful for everything I am. I am grateful that I know when to let go. I am grateful that I do not let my comfort zone trap and hurt me.
What Are You Releasing?
Wounded healers, I see you. I honor you. I invite you to share—what are you releasing, and what are you welcoming in its place? Let’s talk in the comments below. 💛